Co-worker: L, this is what happened in song of Solomon. She was NOT all about him at first. he had to keep going after her. if it would KILL you (and that's TOTALLY fair - i've been there) to have him pursue you, then you're right, you can't do it. But if you think that you could stand it, i would let it happen a little bit.
Me: oh man
Co-worker: lol, i love NOT being the one to make decision