Wednesday, December 21, 2005

Shuffle to the Back

Well, things with This Guy went well. I was dreading telling him my thoughts and as he began to say “nice things” I didn’t know if I would be able to. I was sitting there, thinking “S*&%, S#$&, S%@&” and then decided that rather than mentally swearing, I should probably pray about it. So I did, and it ended up going very, very smoothly . . at least for me. And in the end, I’m still glad I’m a girl, because I think ending something is a whole lot easier than starting it.



Last night was my fifth time line dancing with the Country Kickers. It’s my “new thing” and so much fun! Everyone there is so extremely nice and welcoming . . . and old. In fact, other than one other guy my age, I’m the youngest by probably 20 years. But it’s so great. I met a nice, older couple (M & S) in their late 50s who told me that I just had to meet their 29-year-old son and that they’d try to get him to come so I would have a dance partner my age. After talking a bit, I had quite a lot of reason to believe that he was a Christian. And his mother said he was very cute. And he’d come dancing before quite a few times so he should be familiar with some of the couples’ dances. Could it be that I would have a nice, young, talented dance partner and that he would be cute?

No. Neither. I mean I didn’t expect both to be true, but neither?? Not only can he not dance, but his mother is very biased. I could’ve easily overlooked his average looks if he could dance, but he was tripping over his feet and mine the whole night and his arms were more like the angel hair pasta I’ve been craving than those of a man who can lead. Even the simplest of dances had him stumped. With a last name like “Tucker” I expected him to be tearing up the dance floor like nobody’s business. Hey, if you’re country, it should be in your genes.

But, he was nice. And geez, most of the time that’s all I can say about single, Christian guys I meet. “Well, he’s really nice.” Not he’s cool or he’s funny or he’s such a godly man. He’s just nice. And I don’t want a “nice guy”. I want someone “who could be wicked, but wouldn’t” (Anne of Green Gables). Know what I mean?

7 comments:

k said...

Bummer! I have the problem of finding guys that are great on paper and that I have a great time with, but the spark isn’t there. I find it so frustrating. Basically boys in general are so frustrating. Maybe 2006 will bring us both better luck in love! Let’s hope so!!

Sarah said...

Ooh, you should come to Lincoln sometime...there are a LOT of cute cool guys in my church! It's like a candy store =)

Sean said...

Kinda sounds like some bitter, single women. The problem is always the guy... they're never what YOU want, what YOU need, etc. Please dont toss ALL Christian guys into your "pile of disappointments".

I'm sure this isnt your heart, but it comes accross very elitist and, almost arrogant.
Just wondering, does THIS GUY read your blog? I would hope not....

L said...

Hi Sean. It definitely isn't my heart to sound rude! I'm just being honest. . and throwing in some exaggerations, of course. I don't think there is anything wrong at all with the two guys I've mentioned . . they're great! . . they're just not for me. Obviously only one guy will be for me . . I'm just journaling about the guys I run into along the way. In fact, I really do want a "nice guy" and I don't even care if he can dance or not.

(And, no, This Guy doesn't read my blog. Are you kidding? I'm really not a mean person :)

girl from florida said...

Shuffle to the Back... I think that's the song I posted about the other day! Seriously!

There are a lot of really cute guys in my church too :) Come to Florida!!

Seriously. Ok. You really don't sound elitist nor arrogant. You are actually refreshingly honest and it's lovely to hear your thoughts. Sorry if it's none of my business, but Sean sounds arrogant to be so judgemental to your thoughts on this guy. (I have no clue who Sean is & I'm very sorry if I offended you by saying that!) But you don't sound like a bitter, single woman in the least. You sound like a fun, intelligent, discriminating girl looking for the right partner and not willing to settle for just any old guy.

There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with looking for what YOU want, what YOU need, etc. If I hadn't been so discriminating I would have married the "just OK" guy I dated before my husband and my life would be nowhere near what it is today, because I have an amazing husband who is exactly what I wanted & needed, and God brought him into my life.

Anonymous said...

i love you laurs...

L said...

Thanks Girl! I feel much better. Maybe I should take a couple trips to Lincoln and Florida :)